If you’ve been following my blog posts (and why wouldn’t you?), you probably remember me advising in favor of signing up for a 3 month subscription versus a 6 or 12 month subscription to eHarmony.
I laid out a cohesive argument as to why you should choose the 3 month sub, but I didn’t go into too much detail as to why the 6 and 12 month subs might not be a good idea.
Caveat: This post assumes that you’re like me….in your early 30’s and looking for a serious relationship, but don’t have a lot of time or money to invest. If you’re not like me, then a 12 or 6 month subscription is probably best for you. Read on as to why…
Who Benefits Most From a 6 or 12 Month eHarmony Subscription?
If your personality is more extrovert than introvert, you might benefit from a 6 or 12 month subscription. The average person (or the average introvert) expends a lot of mental and physical energy (not to mention money) on dating. It’s time consuming as well.
The emotional investment can literally drain you of your energy for an entire week. Think about it. You meet a guy via the guided communication and all is going well. You finally reach “open communication” on eHarmony and for the next few days, things are going swimmingly. You exchange emails, then telephone numbers and finally set up the first date. You get there, only to realize the guy has MAJOR self esteem issues and it’s a deal-breaker for you.
If you’re like most women, you probably start thinking somewhere along the lines of “this guy is the one.” During the two weeks you were talking to him over the internet, you probably let your imagination run wild a bit, despite your best efforts.
Finally meeting the guy on a date in real life, only to have your expectations shattered is a real punch in the proverbial gut to most women – unless you’re a sales rep or extrovert. Otherwise, if you’re like most women, you need a few days or a week or two to mentally process things and get your head back into the game.
Now imagine doing this for 6 to 12 months straight. It’s insanity!
So if you’re like me (an introvert), a 3 month subscription is the best way to ease your way into eHarmony. If you haven’t found the right guy after those 3 months, take 1-2 months off. It will allow your brain and body to recharge, refocus, and get back out there anew.