By now you’ve seen the sappy eHarmony commercials that play 24/7 on t.v. If you haven’t, click the “Play” button up above. Actually, the new eharmony commercials aren’t as bad as the ones they had 10 years ago. They were SO sappy and kitsch that it could cause a hardened Navy sailor to throw up their lunch.
So why am I making a post about best 1st date ideas for eHarmony? Because if you sign up, there’s a really good chance you’re going to find yourself with plenty of prospects to choose from. Eventually you’re going to want to go out on a date and meet them in real life. But there’s a catch: You should NEVER go to a bar on your first date.
Why not? If you’re like me, you probably have spent years (10 to be exact) on Match.com and other sites like that. Proverbial (and literal) online meat markets without the smells of throwup and cheap booze you’d find at your local dive bar. For almost 10 years, my modus operandi was to find a guy on Match, vet him out via a few emails, then meet him at the local dive bar. I figured it there wasn’t a personality match, neither of us would have ventured much.
While that line of thinking may have worked very well for Match.com and Plenty of Fish….it doesn’t work for eHarmony.
Put Some Thought into Your 1st Date!
eHarmony goes 10 steps further than Match.com or any other online dating site does. Meaning you really and truly get to know the other person before you meet up for your first date in real life. You’re already 4-5 dates ahead of the game at this point in time, and without having ever left the comfort of your living room.
Taking a guy (or girl) to a bar on the 1st date is a huge no-no. You have already passed that stage on the “guided communication” aspect of eHarmony. What you need to do is meet for a light lunch or dinner. When I say “light”, I don’t mean a 7-course meal where you’re sitting there for hours on end staring at the other person.
By the time your first date rolls around, you should have a good indication that you’re going to be very compatible with your date. Unless there is something completely wrong about them (eg: fake profile picture or whatever), you’re most likely going to hit it off in real life.
So head on over to a cafe for a light lunch. This way you can spend ~30 minutes on a quick date and that will let you know how well you’re compatible in real life. If the next 30 minutes fly by in record time, then that is a very good sign you’ve found someone you’re compatible with.
If the next 30 minutes feels like an eternity…uh oh. It’s not the end of the world and it very well could be “1st date jitters”, but keep that in mind if you find yourself head over heels for them and they’re feeling lukewarm about you.
A Few More Tips…
Just because the first date went off well, doesn’t mean you’ve found your soul mate. Prior to allowing yourself to fall madly in love with the other person, you should schedule a wide variety of outdoor and indoor activities. Basically, spend as much time with that person as you can to get a good sense of their personality as well as how well you’re going to get along.
There is thing called the “Honeymoon Phase” in dating. It’s basically the first few weeks or months you’re with someone. Everything is shiny, new, and exciting. Once the honeymoon phase is over – get ready for the same ‘ol, same ‘ol. While this isn’t a bad thing necessarily, it means that the excitement isn’t as fresh as it once was. It’s at this point in time that you and your partner should easily be able to see if there is a love connection or not.
Remember, you can always grab a few more eharmony promo codes and create a new account on eHarmony and give it another shot. After all, practice makes perfect.